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How to
Give a Good
Blow Job
by
Kiley Oram
Giving a great
blow job is easy, not to mention sexy and fun
for both giver and receiver. Fellatio is a
versatile sex act, too--you can do it almost
anywhere!
1.
Get comfortable.
A blow job is much more fun without a sore neck.
Find a position that works best for both of you,
depending on where you are (you can't really
lounge comfortably in an elevator, you know) and
the angle of the cock you're dealing with (work
with the natural downward angle of your throat).
Kneel before your man with him standing if
you’re in a confined area, or when you want to
strike a pose that is really hot. Other
positions: seat your partner and crouch between
their legs (slide a pillow under your knees if
you're not on a soft surface), or lay down and
let your partner thrust into your mouth, (harder
to control the depth, but good for you lazy
types). If you're in a car, your partner can lay
down lengthwise in the back.
2.
If you're using a condom, put it on NOW!
Try a
Trustex flavored condom or Kiss O' Mint condom
if you don't like the taste of latex. A sexy way
to set the scene is to use your mouth to put the
condom on before . if you want, but that's not
required.
3.
Give us a kiss.
If you're dealing
with a soft penis, you don't have to wait until
it's hard to start the show. Put it in your
mouth when it's soft (or semi-hard) to get
acquainted. Kiss it. Lick it. Explore the
different textures, especially the roughish
tender head and the soft skin of the shaft. Feel
it growing in your mouth. Cool, huh?
4.
Mouth off.
Slide your lips gently over your teeth for
smooth sailing. Most fellatio recipients like
lots of spit, but others prefer a drier job, so
check in with your partner. Asking quick yes or
no questions like "want it dryer?" or "more
spit?" can be helpful and hot. Despite your
amazing technique, you aren’t a mind-reader, so
watch your partner for body language cues. Heavy
breathing and moans of pleasure are signs that
you’re on the right track.
5.
Experiment.
You can do more wonderful stuff with your mouth
than just suck (and remember--the harder you
suck doesn’t necessarily mean the better it
feels). Mix it up by licking the sensitive
underside of the shaft, the nerve-ending-loaded
head of the penis, and the testicles. Softly
blow on the moistened areas. The combination of
sensations will feel incredible.
6.
Hands-on.
Give your blow job a hand.
Grip the cock around the base and slide it up
and down, hand-job style, in tandem with your
mouth. (Some folks like a tight squeeze, others
may not, so check in.) This is great because you
can cover a lot of the shaft this way without
worrying about taking the whole cock in your
mouth. You can concentrate on the
super-sensitive head and suck as hard or softly
as you—and your partner—like. Use lube for extra
slipperiness. A silicone lube like
Eros Bodyglide is
great for blow jobs: it's concentrated so you
only need a tiny bit, it's long-lasting so you
won't need to keep stopping to reload, and it
doesn't have a distracting taste or smell.
7.
Deep throat.
Deep-throating—the act of taking the entire
shaft into your mouth and throat—can be cool,
but you can give a perfectly stellar blow job
without doing so. The key to deep-throat is to
relax your jaw and throat muscles as much as you
can. Otherwise, you trigger the gag reflex.
8.
Accessorize.
Bring some toys into your
routine. Experiment with cockrings, buttplugs,
or little vibrators (like the
Finger Fun vibe) for
some attention on the testicles and perineum.
Hold a vibrator against your cheek to add
vibrations to your mouth play. Or try sucking on
ice or a breath mint to transmit a tingly
sensation to your favorite penis. Again, check
in with your partner to see how experimental you
should be.
9.
Get into it.
Look at your partner and the ecstacy you have
caused! Make eye contact. Show your partner how
much you love being down there. Moan, make
appreciative noises (a well-placed “MMMM!” can
make for some nice vibration, too), let your
partner know how turned on you are. Don't
neglect the rest of the body, either—stroke,
tickle, scratch the thighs, stomach, butt, and
everywhere else you can reach.
10.
Sucking Silicone.
This applies to every
cock, silicone, rubber, glass, vegetable and
flesh alike. When you're dealing with a dildo,
treat it like your partner can feel everything
you're doing to it--because they can.
Be careful if the toy is made of a non-flexible
material--position yourself accordingly to
accommodate it. For more on this topic, see
How to Suck Strap on Cock.
11.
Finish the Job.
It is ultimately your choice whether or not to
swallow. Your partner's diet, health, habits and
frequency of ejaculation will determine the
quantity and taste of the ejaculate. The
ejaculate of someone who ingests lots of red
meat, caffeine, alcohol or cigarettes, may taste
more intense than that of a non-smoking
vegetarian. The most ejaculate you might
encounter is a teaspoonful or so. You have
several choices if you aren’t crazy about
ejaculate, but don’t want to hurt anyone’s
feelings:
·
you can take it in your mouth and discreetly
deposit into a nearby towel
as your partner approaches climax, withdraw and
finish with your hand.
·
You can let your partner come on your body and
admire the copious amounts of ejaculate
·
you can use a condom
When you're
totally focused on giving head, it can be a lot
of fun—whether it's for power play (your
partner’s most precious asset is at your
mercy), intimacy, or the pure fun of getting
someone off. Remember, you should only be
performing fellatio on somebody if you're really
into it and are able to focus all of your energy
on what you're doing. If you're staring at the
clock, waiting for it to end, or worrying about
the laundry in the dryer, you won't have a good
time—and your partner will be able to tell
you're not into it, which can be distracting,
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