How to Find Your G-Spot

by Laura Weide

The G-spot is the common name for a spot on the front of the vaginal wall through which you can stimulate the urethral sponge, an area of spongy tissue surrounding the urethra, which can feel good when stimulated. All female-bodied people have a G-spot, but not all respond to G-spot stimulation in the same way. Locating and stimulating the G-spot can lead to orgasm and even ejaculation for many women.

1.      Find it. The G-spot is about two inches inside the vagina towards the belly, right behind the pubic bone. The G-spot corresponds to spongy tissue that is wrapped around the urethra. When women are aroused the tissue becomes thickened and can be felt through the vaginal wall. It creates an intense, distinctive sensation when stimulated. For some women this feeling is similar to the sensation of needing to urinate. And for some, stimulation of the G-spot can make them ejaculate.

2.      Turn yourself on. The first step is to get turned on. During arousal, the spongy tissue swells with fluid. When you aren't turned on, the wall of the vagina feels fairly similar all the way around, but when you get aroused the G-spot becomes more firm with blood and other fluids. Grab a vibrator, your favorite sexy movie, or indulge in a hot fantasy.

3.      Add a finger or toy. Now insert your finger into your vagina and curve your finger up towards your belly. Your fingers may be too short, in which case, try a curved toy. The Crystal Wand and the Archer Wand are designed for women to reach their own G-spots. The Nubby G is our most popular vibrating toy for G-spot stimulation.

4.      Firm strokes. You'll know when you hit the G-spot by the distinctive sensation it creates. Remember, you aren't feeling for something on the vaginal wall, the urethral sponge is behind it, so you'll need to press. The texture of the G-spot feels somewhat bumpy or crinkly; noticeably different than the smooth walls of the vagina. Press firmly and stroke your fingers towards your palm (move them in a "come hither" way). Try various degrees of pressure and a range of motions.

5.      Experiment. There is no single "right way" to jazz the G. The size and sensitivity of the G-spot varies a lot. You'll just have to experiment. Some like rhythmic pressure on the G-spot, others like the swooping motion of fingers or a twisting dildo like the Rabbit Habit. Others really like to have their clits stimulated at the same time their G-spot is stroked. A partner's fingers stroking the G-spot during cunnilingus can feel simply divine.

6.      Ejaculate (or not)! Pressure on the G-Spot or the contractions of orgasm can cause ejaculation from the urethral sponge through the urethra. This fluid is different from urine and similar to men's prostatic fluid. Empty your bladder before sex, so you won't worry about peeing. Ejaculate quantity will probably be less than a teaspoon or two, but sometimes it can be copious. Objects in the vagina may block the uretha, thus preventing ejaculation. Some women ejaculate after the penis, dildo or fingers are removed. While not every woman ejaculates, female ejaculation is not uncommon, and it is considered a normal aspect of female sexual response.

7.      Partners and sexual positions. During partner sex there are some sex positions that are more conducive for hitting the G than others. Think geometry. Unless your partner has a curved dildo or penis, it's the cervix, not the G-spot that will most likely be stimulated in the standard missionary pose. Doggy style, or the receptive partner receiving a dildo or penis from behind, puts the G-spot in the bullseye a bit better. You can lift your upper body by supporting your hands against a wall or bedstand and create a more angled space in the vagina. Many women find that if they are on top, they can control penetration for better G-spot stimulation.

G-spot response varies dramatically: remember there's no one "right way to experience pleasure." Rather than turning your explorations into a task or new goal you must achieve, try to approach it with a sense of fun and enjoy all the sensations along the way. Happy sex adventures!